Refresh and Renew

Today I met with a friend I call my best friend. Even though we see each other not often enough and just live 20 minutes apart. We have been friends for 8 years. She is a mother, full time worker, wife, and friend. She is a great person.

Even though we don't see each other often when we do get together it never seems different. She is one of those friends that I feel connected to no matter how much time passes. I feel as nothing has changed. I hope I am not just imaging this...(paranoia again). We have grown up, evolved and yet we still are friends through it all. We could tell you stories from the good old days or from mommy hood. I felt so refreshed and renewed to have a kindred spirit who understands the details of life. After that hour, just one hour I felt refreshed like I could take on the world. I seemed to understand my husband and my child better. I felt as if I had some perspective into family life and motherhood. I don't do it often enough. I don't remember to take care of myself in the hustle and bustle of things. Remembering to take care of my spirit and my soul, will make me a better wife and mother. I read in a blog today about mommy social lives and how to take care of us. The tips they have are great. I especially like the one regarding going out after the kids are in bed. I do this sometimes with just my husband because I feel guilty leaving him with a babysitter after working and etc. It makes me feel better to know he is asleep and being taking care of while mommy takes care of herself.

I think I learned from my mom how to sacrifice "the mom for the children" mentality. I am better at it than her. I do treat myself to material things but treating my self to social events, lunches, dinners, play dates is another thing. I need to work on developing those relationships and making them strong. For all of us mothers involved it would renew our spirits and make us more well rounded mothers.